Comments on: Moving on from Loss, through Grief http://mindfulconstruct.com/2008/12/11/moving-on-from-loss-through-grief/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:45:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Melissa Karnaze http://mindfulconstruct.com/2008/12/11/moving-on-from-loss-through-grief/#comment-3987 Melissa Karnaze Sun, 17 Jan 2010 19:35:07 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=189#comment-3987 Andy, thank you for sharing your story. Yes, you're right, it's up to the person and the person alone to determine how long to grieve, when to grieve, and how to grieve. It's so easy to be misunderstood as a person in grief. Observers have no idea what it's like to be in your shoes. And all you can do is keep doing what's best for you. I remember your comment on the "<a href='http://serenityhacker.com/2009/11/3-keys-to-emotional-serenity/' rel="nofollow">3 Keys to Emotional Serenity</a>" article at Serenity Hacker, and I appreciate your taking the time to stop by here. Your words inspire me, and remind me just how resilient we really are. :) Andy, thank you for sharing your story.

Yes, you’re right, it’s up to the person and the person alone to determine how long to grieve, when to grieve, and how to grieve.

It’s so easy to be misunderstood as a person in grief. Observers have no idea what it’s like to be in your shoes. And all you can do is keep doing what’s best for you.

I remember your comment on the “3 Keys to Emotional Serenity” article at Serenity Hacker, and I appreciate your taking the time to stop by here. Your words inspire me, and remind me just how resilient we really are. :)

]]> By: Andy http://mindfulconstruct.com/2008/12/11/moving-on-from-loss-through-grief/#comment-3978 Andy Sat, 16 Jan 2010 20:42:06 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=189#comment-3978 I agree with so much of what you say here with the following observation. "When" one moves on is up to THEM. No one...not a single person can say when that time is. Some people (like me) have been grieving the loss of a loved one before they die. I grieved for the 1st year after my wife was diagnosed with cancer because I knew that life as we knew it was over...and her shortened life expectancy hit me in the gut so hard I could barely take it. Now...there is an acceptable time frame for how long I should grieve. At least I feel that way. My grieving will never be over...because she was so important to me...taught me...loved me and my kids...and there was so much to look forward to. I have almost stopped grieving for the things that will never be...but I'll never not miss her. Having said that...to the outside world it may look like I haven't grieved long enough...but to me...I want to move forward and I am. It hurts...but it's time to move on. We need to remember that when we whisper to our friends about it being too soon to act that way...or why the h*ll doesn't she get over it and move on. Thanks for this. Very much! I agree with so much of what you say here with the following observation. “When” one moves on is up to THEM. No one…not a single person can say when that time is. Some people (like me) have been grieving the loss of a loved one before they die. I grieved for the 1st year after my wife was diagnosed with cancer because I knew that life as we knew it was over…and her shortened life expectancy hit me in the gut so hard I could barely take it.

Now…there is an acceptable time frame for how long I should grieve. At least I feel that way. My grieving will never be over…because she was so important to me…taught me…loved me and my kids…and there was so much to look forward to. I have almost stopped grieving for the things that will never be…but I’ll never not miss her.

Having said that…to the outside world it may look like I haven’t grieved long enough…but to me…I want to move forward and I am. It hurts…but it’s time to move on. We need to remember that when we whisper to our friends about it being too soon to act that way…or why the h*ll doesn’t she get over it and move on.

Thanks for this. Very much!

]]> By: shamelle-TheEnhanceLife http://mindfulconstruct.com/2008/12/11/moving-on-from-loss-through-grief/#comment-9 shamelle-TheEnhanceLife Fri, 12 Dec 2008 06:22:22 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=189#comment-9 Hi, Thank you for stopping by my blog and for the kind words :-) You have a very thought provoking blog too! Sham Hi,
Thank you for stopping by my blog and for the kind words :-)

You have a very thought provoking blog too!
Sham

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