Comments on: What is Codependency? http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/05/what-is-codependency/ Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:31:49 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Melissa Karnaze http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/05/what-is-codependency/#comment-3144 Melissa Karnaze Sat, 31 Oct 2009 01:43:14 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=508#comment-3144 Thank you. :) Interesting thoughts about unifying wavelengths... I think ultimately doing that at an interdependent level leads to much better teamwork, productivity, and shared goal-reaching. Great things to reach for! Thank you. :) Interesting thoughts about unifying wavelengths… I think ultimately doing that at an interdependent level leads to much better teamwork, productivity, and shared goal-reaching. Great things to reach for!

]]> By: Monkey Magic http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/05/what-is-codependency/#comment-3140 Monkey Magic Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:07:52 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=508#comment-3140 It has been deeply etched in our social norms to be codependent. Starting from the fairy tales when we were little, codependency has run deep in our blood... The happily ever after image always includes a prince and a princess getting married. Then take all the drama showing on TV. Most of them always show that you have to go all out for love, even if it's unhealthy love, without it you will suffer in silence. This article is truly a breeze of fresh air, showing interdependence relationship which every one basically has to pursue. The happier and content we are with ourselves, the easier it will be to get people with the same wavelength together. Just found your site, and the content is just awesome... Thanks for sharing Melissa :) It has been deeply etched in our social norms to be codependent. Starting from the fairy tales when we were little, codependency has run deep in our blood… The happily ever after image always includes a prince and a princess getting married.

Then take all the drama showing on TV. Most of them always show that you have to go all out for love, even if it’s unhealthy love, without it you will suffer in silence.

This article is truly a breeze of fresh air, showing interdependence relationship which every one basically has to pursue. The happier and content we are with ourselves, the easier it will be to get people with the same wavelength together.

Just found your site, and the content is just awesome… Thanks for sharing Melissa :)

]]> By: Melissa Karnaze http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/05/what-is-codependency/#comment-174 Melissa Karnaze Tue, 24 Mar 2009 21:51:23 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=508#comment-174 Laura, great to see you again (Sure thing - I'm still learning too :p). You're right, we are *immersed* in a culture of codependency. Have you read any of Anne Wilson Schaef's books? She writes about society being codependent, even down to the institutions of mental health and psychotherapy. She is pretty radical with her stance, but hits on some undeniable points about our ways of relating. I really enjoyed your <a href="http://ezinearticles.com/?Co-Dependency-and-the-Manager---Do-You-Dread-Discord?&id=1419897" rel="nofollow">article</a>, especially this quote: <blockquote cite="Co-Dependency and the Manager - Do You Dread Discord?"> "...allowing another person to be responsible for themselves (even if that means occasional failure) is a very compassionate act." </blockquote> What a profound lesson you learned from your students... and how great that it was a win-win when you let go of having to be responsible for them. Thanks for sharing! Laura, great to see you again (Sure thing – I’m still learning too :p). You’re right, we are *immersed* in a culture of codependency. Have you read any of Anne Wilson Schaef’s books? She writes about society being codependent, even down to the institutions of mental health and psychotherapy. She is pretty radical with her stance, but hits on some undeniable points about our ways of relating.

I really enjoyed your article, especially this quote:

“…allowing another person to be responsible for themselves (even if that means occasional failure) is a very compassionate act.”

What a profound lesson you learned from your students… and how great that it was a win-win when you let go of having to be responsible for them. Thanks for sharing!

]]> By: Laura Lewis-Barr http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/05/what-is-codependency/#comment-173 Laura Lewis-Barr Tue, 24 Mar 2009 19:37:01 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=508#comment-173 Hi Melissa, We are really on the same wavelength! (Thanks for the trackback btw--I'm still learning about such things!) This is SUCH an important issue. I've been examining it from a workplace standpoint. Codependency is so standard in our culture that we don't even see it most of the time. It is the water we swim in. Thanks for this important article. If you're curious about mine, it is on the article page on my website..... Hi Melissa,
We are really on the same wavelength! (Thanks for the trackback btw–I’m still learning about such things!) This is SUCH an important issue. I’ve been examining it from a workplace standpoint. Codependency is so standard in our culture that we don’t even see it most of the time. It is the water we swim in. Thanks for this important article. If you’re curious about mine, it is on the article page on my website…..

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