Comments on: Don’t Be Afraid To Be Alone http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/ Wed, 23 May 2012 20:33:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Melissa Karnaze http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/#comment-74615 Melissa Karnaze Sun, 11 Dec 2011 18:00:44 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=606#comment-74615 Hi Mike, yes, it's the "unpopular" or "disease" labeling that interferes with the self-awareness that we need to make any relationship work. The holidays are a great time to take some solitude. Hi Mike, yes, it’s the “unpopular” or “disease” labeling that interferes with the self-awareness that we need to make any relationship work. The holidays are a great time to take some solitude.

]]> By: Mike http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/#comment-74126 Mike Fri, 09 Dec 2011 22:11:14 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=606#comment-74126 We seldom learn from or enjoy solitude as we see it as a negative. We see being alone as a symptom of what we see as a disease(being unpopular). I will start to devote some time to me, no phone, internet, tv, etc. See where my journey of self discovery takes me. thanks great article. We seldom learn from or enjoy solitude as we see it as a negative. We see being alone as a symptom of what we see as a disease(being unpopular). I will start to devote some time to me, no phone, internet, tv, etc. See where my journey of self discovery takes me. thanks great article.

]]> By: I Tried Googling My Way Out Of This Fear « Afraid to be Alone http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/#comment-4452 I Tried Googling My Way Out Of This Fear « Afraid to be Alone Tue, 02 Feb 2010 13:23:27 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=606#comment-4452 [...] where Melissa Karnaze explains a tiny bit about aloneness. She says the contemporary self can only define itself in relationship to others. [...] [...] where Melissa Karnaze explains a tiny bit about aloneness. She says the contemporary self can only define itself in relationship to others. [...]

]]> By: Melissa Karnaze http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/#comment-2934 Melissa Karnaze Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:59:50 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=606#comment-2934 Miche, thank you for your lovely comment. And thank you for reminding me that day-breaks, amidst the internet-drenched workstyle, are in order! :) I think it's really perceptive how you pin down "wandering around aimlessly and restless going from one distraction to the next," because, speaking strictly internet here, it's super easy to use link after link after link after link to fuel that kind of compulsive behavior. And I speak from experience. Thanks for sharing your beautiful article as well, just left a comment. :) Miche, thank you for your lovely comment. And thank you for reminding me that day-breaks, amidst the internet-drenched workstyle, are in order! :)

I think it’s really perceptive how you pin down “wandering around aimlessly and restless going from one distraction to the next,” because, speaking strictly internet here, it’s super easy to use link after link after link after link to fuel that kind of compulsive behavior. And I speak from experience.

Thanks for sharing your beautiful article as well, just left a comment. :)

]]> By: Miche http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/#comment-2932 Miche Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:48:20 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=606#comment-2932 Hi Melissa, I'm really enjoying your insights here. I came across your blog on a "recommended woman bloggers" list, and I'm glad I found it. My best friend is a therapist and I often gain insights into theories from her, but it's nice to have discovered a blog that explores them... so thanks for putting it together. I also like the name "mindful construct". :) I think cultivating a practice of solitude is so important for well-being yet so many are very uncomfortable with it. (I recently wrote a post "How to Get from Boredom to Intuition" http://bit.ly/MCeQ8 which was just one little spin on it). I often take a day of solitude, away from the internet, information, technology, people, and all the distractions available to me. Sometimes I need more than a day. But what happens when I do that is I come face to face with thoughts and feelings that I may not have acknowledged otherwise, things that I need to process, that I can't discover without that solitude. I usually "know" that I need to do this when I'm wandering around aimlessly and restless going from one distraction to the next, avoiding solitude altogether. Somewhat ironically, that for me is the biggest clue that what I really *need* is the total opposite of what I'm doing! Cheers, and thanks for sharing this. Miche :) Hi Melissa,

I’m really enjoying your insights here. I came across your blog on a “recommended woman bloggers” list, and I’m glad I found it. My best friend is a therapist and I often gain insights into theories from her, but it’s nice to have discovered a blog that explores them… so thanks for putting it together. I also like the name “mindful construct”. :)

I think cultivating a practice of solitude is so important for well-being yet so many are very uncomfortable with it. (I recently wrote a post “How to Get from Boredom to Intuition” http://bit.ly/MCeQ8 which was just one little spin on it).

I often take a day of solitude, away from the internet, information, technology, people, and all the distractions available to me. Sometimes I need more than a day. But what happens when I do that is I come face to face with thoughts and feelings that I may not have acknowledged otherwise, things that I need to process, that I can’t discover without that solitude.

I usually “know” that I need to do this when I’m wandering around aimlessly and restless going from one distraction to the next, avoiding solitude altogether. Somewhat ironically, that for me is the biggest clue that what I really *need* is the total opposite of what I’m doing!

Cheers, and thanks for sharing this.
Miche :)

]]> By: Melissa Karnaze http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/#comment-1872 Melissa Karnaze Sun, 23 Aug 2009 00:20:32 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=606#comment-1872 Thanks Karol. Yeah, eating out alone can be quite scary when you're not comfortable being alone! Especially if you're worried about what other people think of you... because they sure aren't eating alone -- no, they wouldn't have gone out if they couldn't convince a friend to come along. :p It's so great to hear that you don't need others' presence as permission to do want you want to do. The right company is priceless, but so it the right solitude. Thanks Karol. Yeah, eating out alone can be quite scary when you’re not comfortable being alone! Especially if you’re worried about what other people think of you… because they sure aren’t eating alone — no, they wouldn’t have gone out if they couldn’t convince a friend to come along. :p

It’s so great to hear that you don’t need others’ presence as permission to do want you want to do. The right company is priceless, but so it the right solitude.

]]> By: Karol Gajda http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/#comment-1866 Karol Gajda Sat, 22 Aug 2009 18:55:39 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=606#comment-1866 Melissa, I love this! I wasn't good at being alone until a couple of years ago. I couldn't fathom going out to eat alone much less traveling the world alone. Now if there's something I want to do, I do it whether it's alone or with friends. It's important not to rely on others to do what you want. Growing stronger and more confident in yourself aside, doing certain things alone can actually be more fun than doing them with others. Melissa, I love this! I wasn’t good at being alone until a couple of years ago. I couldn’t fathom going out to eat alone much less traveling the world alone. Now if there’s something I want to do, I do it whether it’s alone or with friends. It’s important not to rely on others to do what you want. Growing stronger and more confident in yourself aside, doing certain things alone can actually be more fun than doing them with others.

]]> By: Melissa Karnaze http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/#comment-172 Melissa Karnaze Tue, 24 Mar 2009 17:33:06 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=606#comment-172 Thanks Shaila. I cherish my alone time too. It isn't always polite, and it isn't always socially accepted... but it is *so* worth it. Thanks Shaila. I cherish my alone time too. It isn’t always polite, and it isn’t always socially accepted… but it is *so* worth it.

]]> By: Shaila http://mindfulconstruct.com/2009/02/19/dont-be-afraid-to-be-alone/#comment-171 Shaila Tue, 24 Mar 2009 17:20:26 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=606#comment-171 I love being alone. I have space to explore who i am and who I want to be. I have time to explore What of the things that I encounter fit me and how I really feel about each of these things. Its too easy to never really get to who I am if I don't have time alone to explore all this. Great writing!!! I love it. I love being alone. I have space to explore who i am and who I want to be. I have time to explore What of the things that I encounter fit me and how I really feel about each of these things.

Its too easy to never really get to who I am if I don’t have time alone to explore all this.

Great writing!!! I love it.

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