According to the Law of Attraction, all matter is reducible to energy, which means that all of the events that occur in the universe reflect energy vibration.
The Law of Attraction also holds that humans are uniquely placed in the universe because of their consciousness. Humans are gifted with the power to co-create their personal reality because their consciousness interfaces with the universe through the Law of Attraction.
This means that people attract events and/or other people into their lives who reflect their inner vibrations, or their consciousness.
So if you successfully focus your attention and energy on visualizing wealth as already being present in your life, then by virtue of the law, you will manifest events and people that bring about this wealth. All that it requires is that you hold the vibration of “wealth” within you, and the universe will naturally respond.
So in simple terms, the Law of Attraction states that your external world reflects your inner world.
While this belief can be beneficial to your personal health and emotional well-being, by giving you reason to be more response able to your life, it can also become detrimental.
In this article we will put aside the scientific criticism of the Law of Attraction, and instead assume that the law exists. From this assumption, we can see that there are at least three limitations of the Law of Attraction — as it has been commonly taught and marketed — that can actually lead to harmful results:
The Law of Attraction minimizes the subconscious
- 1.) Because the Law of Attraction refers to how you can consciously co-create your external reality by being mindful of your conscious thoughts and emotions, it is easy for you to assume that it is less important — or not important at all — for you to pay attention to your subconscious thoughts and emotions.
Most of the marketing for Law of Attraction centers around the concept of creating more financial wealth through focused and sustained positive thoughts and feelings about already having that wealth in your life. While many may experience success with this technique, it unfortunately sends the message that the universe only responds to your conscious thoughts and emotions.
But we see that this cannot be true when we consider the complex nature of consciousness and that the universe responds to consciousness as a whole. This is because in addition to our conscious thoughts and emotions, we also have subconscious thoughts and emotions — of which even neuroscientists have much to learn about and demystify.
So no matter how positive you say you are, those statements do not necessarily reflect how positive you really are — because you may be harboring negative thoughts and emotions that you are not aware of at a conscious level. But the way that the Law of Attraction is commonly pitched leads people away from exploring their subconscious so that they focus more on their conscious thoughts and emotions.
The subconscious is an invaluable resource for personal growth because the subconscious directly drives many if not most of your thoughts, behaviors, beliefs, and emotions. And if you ignore your subconscious, then any dysfunctional subconscious thoughts or emotions you have will remain, and will continue to interface with the universe via the Law of Attraction — perhaps sabotaging any conscious efforts you make at positive change.
The Law of Attraction minimizes the value of the negative
- 2.) Because the Law of Attraction encourages you to keep positive thoughts and emotions — so that you attract positive events and people into your life — there is an implicit assumption that you should eliminate negative thoughts and emotions.
When you believe that your positive thoughts and emotions draw positive experiences into your life, then you also believe that your negative thoughts and emotions draw negative experiences into your life. This will lead to an aversion for the negative, and perhaps even an avoidance of it altogether.
But this has negative consequences to your emotional health. First of all, scientific studies show that suppressing negative emotions is not very effective, and in fact detrimental. Secondly, when you suppress your negative emotions your rob yourself of the gifts that they may bear — you cut yourself short from being able to catalyze pain into growth, grief into greater acceptance, anger into gratitude, fear into courage, and so on. Additionally, when you invalidate your negative emotions by rejecting and suppressing them, your harm your relationship with yourself — and the universe will reflect that back to you.
Sometimes your thoughts and emotions need to be negative before they can be positive — sometimes you need to embrace your dark side before you can learn how to strengthen your light side. Sometimes you even need to continue with your dysfunctional beliefs before you can adopt functional ones, because you have to first acknowledge that the dysfunction exists before you can begin to understand why it exists and where it came from. In order to transmute a negative experience, thought, or emotion into a positive one, you need to first acknowledge that it exists, by allowing yourself to fully experience it.
The Law of Attraction can lead to self-blame
- 3.) Because the Law of Attraction makes you responsible for much, if not everything that happens in your life, you can easily blame yourself for causing the negative or painful experiences that occur in your life.
When something negative or painful happens to you, then according to the law, it was you who co-created that event because it is you who is co-creating your external reality at all times. Therefore, if you get fired from your job, get into a car accident, develop cancer, or lose someone you love to suicide — it is you who co-created that event, and you are in part to blame. You must have done something or harbored some thought or emotion that would allow for such a negative event to even have the possibility of occurring.
This type of reasoning can be very self-destructive because when you are to blame, you have done something “wrong” and deserve to have that negative event to happen to you as punishment. And this means that you are going to feel some guilt or remorse for having caused the event. This guilt and remorse may only be just the beginning, but it is strong enough to have an adverse effect on your health and emotional well-being — which again, will be reflected in your external reality by the Law of Attraction.
So the next time you use the Law of Attraction, keep these 3 important points in mind:
1.) You need to discover your dysfunctional subconscious thoughts or emotions in order to enhance and in some cases allow for techniques such as positive affirmations to cultivate the kinds of conscious thoughts and emotions that you want to experience on a daily basis.
2.) You can work with your negative thoughts and emotions instead of trying to banish them, and this will allow you to catalyze them into greater personal growth and self-awareness.
3.) You can be response able to your life without blaming yourself if life doesn’t turn out as you hoped for, or even as you expected it to.
Viewing the Law of Attraction from a balanced perspective
As you can see, if the Law of Attraction is at work in our universe, it is much more complex than it has been traditionally viewed in the New Age, or New Thought community.
You need to think critically before you put your faith into this law, because first and foremost you need to have balanced beliefs about your emotions, about your thoughts, about your place in our life, and about your relationship with yourself. You need to discern which interpretations of this law you accept, that do not polarize you to avoid pain or negativity at the expense of your personal growth, happiness, health, or emotional well-being.
Any belief that tries to polarize us to the light (or dark) will lead to negative consequences that will ultimately limit our personal growth, happiness, and health. Besides, it is through integration of light and dark, or positive and negative (think protons and electrons), upon which the universe can even operate, let alone exist.