You don’t see me much because I try to stay in the background. That’s because Copyblogger laid it down straight to me months ago — blogging is all about the reader.
But every now and then I’ll come out and say hello. This is one of those times. Because I want to tell you why I write here. Because I think it will help you learn to be more honest with yourself. And be a little selfish, too.
I write for my own clarity
When I was in college, I was lucky to be taking a lot of really cool classes. As a result, my spiritual beliefs were constantly challenged — in a healthy way. Because I was at a premier institute of science, my spiritual identity would either sharpen up to withstand a predominantly atheist attitude, or it would fade away.
Well, I was pretty headstrong about my beliefs. They were, after all, a core part of my identity.
So after I got the hang of college lectures, I decided to take each class as an opportunity to refine my spiritual beliefs, which included my perspective on emotional health.
I’ll admit that at first, I pitied science, because it was so dry and it couldn’t ever deliver the inner calm and peace that good spirituality nurtures. Yeah, I was pretty judgmental of science in the early days. (That was part of the dysfunctional belief baggage of the New Age, some of which I subscribed to at the time.)
But then, I started to see that science was actually backing up my beliefs — very spiritual ones at that. And I liked it. Of course it feels smarter to quote an scientific research paper than to just say, “Well, I know from personal experience…”
Eventually, I could no longer judge science — because my spirituality depended upon it to grow and expand and strengthen. I realized that science and spirituality would have to be married in my mind if I was going to make the best of my college years (and the rest of my life).
So here I am.
This website has been the perfect vehicle for me to organize my thoughts on this in a coherent way — one that pays respect to both science and spirituality, one that integrates the two.
Yeah, I realize it’s an abstract topic that can’t be done justice in one article. And that’s the point — developing a database of articles helps ground that abstract into concrete, clarify it, sharpen its creative focus.
It’s by utilizing the blog infrastructure of tags, categories, and internal and external linking that I can comfortably formulate, reflect upon, organize, and present my ideas about the intersection of science and sprituality — or in other words, share the perspective of response ability.
Doing so helps me create my own clarity, and build confidence in my own beliefs.
I write for my own sanity
There’s a reason I journal a lot. It’s because I have too many thoughts that are too important to me to just forget.
This site gives me the space to deliver some of those ideas to those who want to read about them. (The ideas want more than anything to be shared.)
So blogging provides a mental health benefit where my mind isn’t constantly overwhelmed by overthinking. A thought floats by, I pin it down into the text editor, make a few changes here and there, point it toward the audience, and let if fly out into cyberspace.
And it has some benefits that journaling doesn’t have, such as the interactive component. When I know someone I’ve never met will be reading my words, I pay more attention to how they are placed on the page, and that causes me to think deeper so that I don’t lose the message in translation.
Blogging is interpersonal business, and so it keeps me more mindful of my (online) social life, as well as my inner life of thoughts and emotions.
And the whole process of blogging acts as pretty darn good memory consolidation. (If I ever forget something I learned in the past, all I have to do is visit my site and revisit my words.)
I write because it makes me feel good
There’s another reason I journal a lot, and it’s that I’m pretty emotional. I go through ups and downs and loops and turns, and it helps for me to keep track of where I’ve been, to see where I may be going.
Every now and then, I’ll come across a painful experience that has so much blog potential — it can be milked and used to spread a message in hopes that others may learn from my mistakes. Being able to turn my pain into something that may help you brings with it an indescribable feeling.
And it gives me practical reason to move through my own emotions and transmute my pain into growth — ’cause then I’ll be able to blog about it!
So now I’m exposed
Well, I’ve confessed my big secrets.
My top three reasons for writing here at Mindful Construct are: my clarity, my sanity, and my pleasure.
So I’m really writing for myself.
Is that selfish?
Is that bad?
Of course I wouldn’t say so, but you may have your own opinion.
But is that bad?
Well, part of my selfish gain is knowing that my words somehow reach a wider audience. Knowing my words may help others feel more effective in their lives makes me feel really good.
So it’s selfish in a good way. If you get something out of an article I write, it’s a win-win for both of us.
Okay, so we’ve established that this website is a selfish endeavor.
Hopefully the word selfish is flipped over on its side now. Hopefully it’s kind of lost meaning in the traditional sense.
You should be selfish too
The more honest you can be about your selfishisms, the better you can make them work for you, for your health, and for your relationships.
The more honest you can be, the better you can accept yourself. And that’s a pretty big deal these days when there’s a lot working against you in the self-acceptance department.
My guess is that you have a lot of things you are doing for healthily selfish reasons. Things that help other people, and make you feel really good in the process.
Are those actions selfish?
Does that make them bad?
You tell me.