Searching for your Soul Mate is more spiritual than just trying to find a significant other, right?
Supposedly it’s a search worth living for.
But a search, nonetheless.
Based on an assumption that, put bluntly, says you can’t be happy on your own (which is the root of codependency).
There’s nothing wrong with meeting a Soul Mate. It can be incredibly life-altering and life-affirming in many unimaginable ways.
But there is something unhealthy in obsessing over the search.
Love emerges in the most unlikely of places. It’s not meant to be controlled, caught, or harnessed. Sometimes it finds you. Sometimes it doesn’t.
The important thing to focus on is whether you could be someone’s Soul Mate. Because guess what — even if you met your Soul Mate tomorrow — there’d be no happy ending unless you two could co-create a healthy, interdependent, loving relationship.
So if you’re actively searching for your Soul Mate, ask yourself:
Is it because you can’t stand being alone anymore?
Or because you want to be happy?
And being happy, well that’s an inside job. If (one of) your Soul Mate(s) is out there, they must love you enough to want for you happiness always, even if that means being happy without them.