Bless Them Curse Words

by Melissa Karnaze

green graffiti art on brick wallMark Twain has said: “Under certain circumstances, profanity provides a relief denied even to prayer.”

Cursing may be impolite, rude, crass, uneducated, unacceptable, inappropriate, or deplorable — but it’s not stupid.

That’s because cursing has a way with expressing intense feelings, like anger, hurt, fear, shame, disbelief, surprise, and wonderment, that’s incredibly emotionally intelligent.

When you can express those feelings with words, in many ways you can better accept and feel them.

More importantly, authentic cursing, or cussing, as I like to say — because “cursing” is far too polite — is an ultimate Freudian slip.

A cuss word of choice can reveal a lot about how you are feeling, what you are thinking, and why.

That’s why stuffing down inappropriate language — unnecessarily (the “necessarily” part is for you to define) — can devastate the invaluable connection between your emotions and the thoughts, assumptions, and beliefs behind them.

If you never let yourself utter your frustration with a mean word that starts with, say, the letter F, then you have a long, long way to go before you can ever fix the problem that prompted you to call upon Mr. F in the first place.

And what you are then left with is unmanaged, unexpressed pain.

And science backs me up on this one.

Well, one recent study that is, whereby undergraduates were able to keep their hand in cold water for longer periods of time when they repeatedly said a cuss word of their choice.

But don’t trust the science, and don’t take my word for it.

You have to behold the power of expletives yourself.

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