Comments on: How a Broken Heart Mends Herself

By: Sinei David

Sinei David — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 07:33:47 +0000

I feel like crying (the bitter, sweet kind).

Ordinarily, I would suppress this emotion.

But, I have been taught (and continue to learn) well. :-)

Thanks

By: Melissa Karnaze

Melissa Karnaze — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 01:56:47 +0000

Kirsty, I’m sorry for your loss. There are so many opportunities for short cuts but the pain shows how great you loved, and still do.

By: Kirsty

Kirsty — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 15:53:19 +0000

Thanks for this Melissa, it helps as I am going through a loss of a loved one as we speak and I was trying to find short cuts. Your words have been truly touching and very inspirational. I now know that eventually I may love again and that is what the heart is designed to do – Thank you

By: Melissa Karnaze

Melissa Karnaze — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 00:54:03 +0000

LaVeer, that’s wonderful to hear. It’s amazing how getting heartbroken can actually make you so much stronger in the end. Thank you for sharing the story of your lovely heart, and modeling for all of us a healthy way to relate to our hearts as well. :)

By: LaVeer

LaVeer — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 00:28:07 +0000

I absolutely love your message on the heart. I agree with you “Wholeheartedly.” I have a wonderful loving heart, this, of course, has caused me to suffer at times when I allowed myself to be vulnerable only to get disappointed or abandoned later. However, this lovely heart of mine keeps on beating and readily opens to love and trust again. I love my heart and how strong she is and I really appreciate your blog.

By: Cihan

Cihan — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 07:51:30 +0000

Actually it also helps if your ex turns out to be deviously crazy, makes you feel like you dodged a bullet!

The heart is a strong organ, but as you point out, a healthy mind makes it stronger.

By: Melissa Karnaze

Melissa Karnaze — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:03:14 +0000

Aw, Eternal Sunshine (for the Spotless Mind) can’t be the only answer to heartbreak!

Memories can fade over time, if you don’t maintain them. It’s really the story that gets changed, how you view the original pain and its aftermath, that can heal. And the only way to get there, to a sound story of strength and healing, is to let the heart feel everything she needs to feel.

Yes, in a way she’s bound to get hurt and create her own wounds — but yeah, that’s cynical! She has to understand the hurt to learn how to really love boldly.

By: Cihan

Cihan — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 23:48:13 +0000

‘Love heals the wound it makes’ apparently.

Personally I found time was the healer. Or more specifically: memory loss. Over time you lose bits of your memory. Memory loss is the healer.

Cynical Cihan today! But lovely article as always Mel.

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By: Melissa Karnaze

Melissa Karnaze — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 05:11:20 +0000

Thanks Kelley. I have so enjoyed reading your comments these past weeks.

You know, this was one of my favorites, if not my favorite, to write. It came more naturally, like writing a poem. And it didn’t have to prove anything or strike a pact with bullet points or other logical stuff that articles usually need. Plus, it was healing for me to write out. :)