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In this world, gaining something usually means losing something else.

What do you consider to be one of your greatest strengths. With that strength comes a few or many weaknesses as well... what are they.

Is there a dark side lurking beneath the surface.

Don't be ashamed, just take a look. Here, use a flashlight if you have to. It's actually a relief once you can recognize it.

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Sonia Connolly November 2, 2009 at 10:22 am

Wow, I’ve never seen anyone else talk about this side of empathy. I’ve also had a pattern of losing my temper and accurately (but unkindly) analyzing people. Needing to realize that other people’s denial is their business, not mine. Making a commitment to my own boundaries and slowly changing my patterns. Staying aware of my own needs and communicating them, and taking space before I lose my temper.

Thank you for posting this!

Melissa Karnaze November 2, 2009 at 10:33 am

That’s the thing, you are *accurate* in analyzing, but it’s not your place to share or try to change other people unless they ask. Holding all of that empathy/knowledge inside without an outlet can lead to unjustified rage. The things you listed are great to keep working on.

Thanks so much for sharing Sonia. I can imagine that being a Trauma Healing Practitioner is something that is ever challenging in this area, but worth the challenge. :)

Sonia Connolly November 2, 2009 at 10:47 am

Hi, Melissa! Well, I’m a Trauma Healing Practitioner because even when I keep my mouth shut, my awareness of people’s Stuff seems to bring it up for them. I figure it’s only fair to let everyone know right up front. Does that happen for you?

Also, my practice is a wonderful daily reminder that the more I act as facilitator (rather than Fixer) and trust that everything my clients need is already inside them, the more healing happens. It is definitely worth the challenge!

Melissa Karnaze November 2, 2009 at 12:42 pm

Facilitator is such a beautiful word, isn’t it? I will be starting facilitator work next year, but I can totally relate to what you are describing! Although, I have a hard, hard time keeping my mouth shut. :D (Which is one reason why I have to write so much.)

I’ve found that my awareness of other people’s stuff and blind spots, it seems by circumstance, puts me in the position to be the one to confront them when they try their usual tactics on me. So when someone comes to me and tries to do the same dysfunctional shebang that they’ve gotten away with their whole life, I tell them about it in order to hold my own boundaries.

It’s a painful job, that I call, “playing the dark role,” but it’s an important job because it triggers their own dark side, so that they may look at it and see if they want to continue hurting themselves and other people.

And I think at a subconscious level, when you are aware of someone else’s problems, you are going to indicate that in some way, or at least be more mindful to allow them the space to recognize it… which may trigger them to look at the problems.

I totally agree that what people need to heal is already inside them. That’s a wisdom that’s too forgotten these days. But we keep drumming on. It’s so great to hear from you Sonia. :)

Sonia Connolly November 2, 2009 at 12:53 pm

Thanks again for talking about this. Your clarity about it shines a light on some of my own recurring struggles.

Melissa Karnaze November 2, 2009 at 8:10 pm

My pleasure Sonia. :) Thanks again for your comments.

Kelley Mitchell November 4, 2009 at 3:21 pm

The awareness of my empathy hit me at two different points. The first was when, a couple of days ago, I took my 13-year-old son the doctor for his annual checkup. I let the doctor know that my son has anxiety something that happens to me as well.

The doctor told us that anxiety often happens to people who are thoughtful and empathetic. I was surprised to hear that, but it definitely made sense.

But it wasn’t until I read your post that I realized it’s my empathy that can lead me to be angry; angry at people when they don’t show the same level of empathy. For me this happens on the road or waiting in lines. For my son it happens at school, when kids are talking or doing something they shouldn’t that will get the class to lose privileges.

We both want people to do what they’re suppose to do so that we can all be happy, but when they don’t that’s when we get very tense and even angry. Why can’t people be more thoughtful like us!

And I do sometimes envy my husband and our older son for their easy “mental-emotional lifestyle”, but now that you bring it up, I wouldn’t trade it for anything either. It’s part of what makes me a great mom. And for my son, it has brought out his leadership by helping his classmates to stay on task.

I hope I have made sense. It is a new realization for me and not something I have talked or even written about before.

Thanks for another enlightening post Melissa.

Melissa Karnaze November 4, 2009 at 5:05 pm

Kelley, thanks so much for sharing. It seems you and I were both thinking about the topic of empathy this past week. :)

Yes, the empathy does mean that you see where people are doing destructive things, but as you described with your son, it also motivates you to find constructive responses and even become a leader in doing so.

It can be a wonderful gift, as long as you are also aware of its dark side. Recognizing this dark side can allow for a better appreciation for the empathy and a better understanding of oneself.

Thanks again Kelley, it’s always great to hear your thoughts on the articles here.

guest November 28, 2009 at 1:35 pm

Keep up the good fight.

we are all so unique and everyone of us has 1 unique apex in our personality that is bigger than everyone else’s on the planet. We all just need each other to help peel of the suppressing layers that we take on. All taken on before we are even able to be aware of…. and defend against these depressing gremlin’s that we accept inside us and just accept as the make up of our personality. With your Empathy you should fully help uncover at least one apex of a loved one…and make them trully happy.

Although my story is quite a different battle :)

guest November 28, 2009 at 2:07 pm

I would like to help you stop criticizing people for the supressing layers they have accumulated due to the unavoidable circumstances of their world. I can see getting provoked by these people, if you want to lose your temper you must better chose the one’s you want to help. But no one is perfect so maybe someone with grand Empathy will come along and help make you the best you can be.

Melissa Karnaze November 28, 2009 at 6:10 pm

guest, yes we are all so unique. Much of the world is set up to suppress that, and we can definitely help each other figure that out. But I don’t believe it is one person’s job to uncover the apex of another person or “make them” happy, since self-sustaining happiness comes from within. :)

Comments you leave here can definitely support other people in not “supressing layers they have accumulated due to the unavoidable circumstances of their world.” I think one of the best things we can do is support this small but growing community where it’s safe to stop the pattern of suppression.

If you think there are any other article topics that would also be constructive, feel free to suggest them. :)

Terry August 1, 2012 at 12:36 pm

In myself I don’t think empathy causes me to have a temper, I think what causes my anger is the feeling of helplessness, helpless to help others. Example: My Mom is an addict, nothing I say or do can help her, this makes me sad, then angry at her for not listening to me. I guess what I am trying to say is empathy in itself does not cause my anger, it is my secondary emotions and the accompaning feelings of me not being able to help her, or maybe I am angry because I think she should listen to me and things would be ok.

Great article!

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