There are lot of shiny happy people in the blogosphere.
I’m not one of them.
It’s not that I’m not happy.
It’s that I am.
Which means… I’m not afraid to feel the flipside too.
The emotional poles go hand in hand. They give each other meaning. Renew each other’s spirits.
I was born happy
I came into the world with giggles and grins and ear-piercing, high-pitched squeals. I came into the world full of silly, overflowed with hyper and joy. And I was lucky to be born into a family that loved and nurtured that little girl.
Deep down, I’m still the same today.
Happiness takes work
You see, naturally I’m very happy.
Especially when I’m by myself and my inner silly has total freedom.
But natural happiness doesn’t last forever.
Because as long as you’ve got a heartbeat — shit will hit the fan.
Life will go “not as planned,” and you’ll be stuck there, facing the adversary to your beloved happiness.
And you’ll have a choice, too.
Put on a fake smile to move on. Or admit defeat to the illusion of eternal happiness.
Happiness takes resilience
To keep on keepin’ on — with the real smiles — you’ve got to develop a very special tool set.
You’ve got be strong, to endure life’s troubles.
You’ve got to commit yourself to resilience.
That’s not easy. It’s not glorified.
Resilience leads to happiness
It’s not even all that blogged about.
But it’s what I choose to write about here… instead of “how to be happy.”
Although, from my perspective, I do blog about happiness. Just not in any face-value way.
I blog about the tool set, emotional health, the path of resilience and sustainable well-being, the damn hard work that sometimes feels impossible — because it seems like you have to grab your dark emotions by the horns just to think straight.
I blog about the stuff I think is misunderstood, or not talked about enough. The dark side of personal growth. The critical thinking we all need more of… the backstory to happiness.
And as a natural result, you might learn more about the natural kind of happiness.
Happiness can come naturally
The kind that emerges because things are working in your life.
Because your emotions are working for you, not against you.
Happiness can also be forced
The blogosphere can be a shiny, happy place.
But a lot of its hubs try to force happiness.
By “making it happen.” By finding out the “secrets” and “tips” and the “must-reads-now.”
Because it needs to happen now. And you need “more” of it. And you need to control your emotions — spanking the naughty ones into place — so you can have it.
I don’t believe in forcing (or faking) it
Look, happiness happens when you have clarity on what you need and want in life, and then have actionable ways to work toward your goals.
It comes from feeling free to pursue your life as you want to. A lot of that has to do with you and your attitude.
Happiness requires deep thinking, self-reflection, some uncertainty, definitely integrity, and incredible self-commitment.
And it is hard work.
But from my perspective, those are the things worth blogging about.
Because when you begin to understand how directly they are connected to your happiness… it makes me smile just to think about it. :)