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This is the 3rd article in the series, "Mindful emotion regulation: An integrative review." Grab your feed to stay tuned.



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Haider January 14, 2010 at 7:01 am

Gnarly, dude.

The first link in this article (to your own definition of mindfulness) leads to a 404 page!

Thought I’d let you know.

I see mindfulness as a conscious awareness of facts. And when we experience an emotion, that, too, is a fact. We can either expand or contract our mindfulness, to take in as many or as few facts possible to our awareness.

Therefore, we can be aware of our feelings only, or our feelings and their causes, or our feelings and their causes and the roots of their causes, and so on. The more mindful we can be, the more facts we have available to us, to make sound judgments about what we can do and how response able we can be.

False beliefs, judgments, associations or any construct that conflicts with facts also conflicts with being mindful, although you can be aware of your belief in a false belief, which is a fact. In other words, if I acknowledge that I believe in the tooth fairy, I am being mindful. Believing in the tooth fairy, and using that as a basis for life decisions, isn’t being mindful, since mindfulness depends on facts.

OK, I now have 9 more browser tabs to Mindful Construct articles. Hope I don’t end up following any more links! :P

Melissa Karnaze January 17, 2010 at 10:39 am

Thanks Haider, the link is working now. :)

“We can either expand or contract our mindfulness, to take in as many or as few facts possible to our awareness.”

I like this. It’s an eloquent summary of the article. :P

The interesting thing is that “fact” is not always represented in its “purest” form by the brain. Several “facts” are encoded as experience, or even memory, which are subjective. But yes, it’s possible to be more mindful of that process in general, and therefore more able to refine the “fact list.”

I hope you do tumble down more links! I’m really enjoying your comments. :)

Haider January 17, 2010 at 11:55 am

And I’m really enjoying your articles! (I guess that shows, already :P)

Kristian October 15, 2012 at 3:55 am

I think this site and the articles you have wrtitten are fantastic. I’ve been using the wrong side of mindfulness, trying to not feel for so long! This article has made me more aware enough to start using the other side of mindfulness and use it to start working with emotions that have been repressed for so long. Thank you for your gifts. Much love x

Jacob October 18, 2012 at 7:36 pm

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being mindful of negative emotions and wanting to be rid of them. There is also nothing wrong with “killing” our ego.

The only reason that these things could be wrong is that we often try to go about it in the same way. Most people suffer from an extreme lack of self esteem ( which is why when they even decide to stop thoughts like “I am ugly” they just perpetuate the BASIC habit of criticizing and not loving one’s self.

“I am stupid for thinking negative thoughts.” And then by using negative energy they try to remove more negative energy.

Kamal S. May 28, 2013 at 9:48 pm

Jacob, with respect I disagree with you and agree with the author of this piece – in this sense that follows.

To kill your ego is to become inauthentic. Your ego literally is you “I”, your individuality. To kill it is an artificiality and hence inauthentic for how can removing the source of your authenticity, your authentic self, be authentic?

I come from a large family, and as I’ve grown older many friends and relatives in turn have had children. I have reflected, and noticed, that even little babies, children of my friends, my younger siblings when they came into this world, whenever I see babies infants even at the age of a week or so they display subtle signs of a personality.

Some are more grave and serious others are docile, others are active, some like one dear friend’s little girl seemed to have a puckish sense of humor. She was a puckish punster at the age of months and would play little practical jokes like holding her arm out for her mother to try to hold her tiny hand, then snatching her arm away and giggling with joy.

As she grew older any doubt concerning this aspect of her personality vanished. The girl, now 3, is a vivacious witty, ironic, and silly practical joker. She jokes with words and actions. It is part of her character that manifested, however, long before any socially constructed sense of a personality could manifest. She was just innately a punster.

I knew someone who when very young was always shy and contemplative, intensely thoughtful, this was something of his character noticed from before he even turned one. He would just silently observe and seem to muse over things. He would rarely cry, even if he felt hurt he would stoically just silently shed a tear or two and seem to retreat inside of himself. As he grew older into his teens these traits prevailed and remained.

I have witnessed other similar things. These traits persisted in these children as they grew older. I do believe that our personalities, emotional responses, and “egos” are innate and part of ourselves from a very early age.

I believe that the misunderstanding in self-development or spiritual type literature lies in the misunderstanding of the ego, the self, and it’s socially conditioned responses which can be disfunctional.

The Sufis use a three part gradation taken from Islamic sources to describe the concept of the Nafs, the self, the world being the Arabic equivilant to the concept of the ego. At no stage is it “killed” per se, rather it is transmuted to the final stage. The Nafs Mutmaina, “The Ego at Peace.”

Why would you want to destroy your Ego, when you could just render it content and peaceful?

Emotional responses, negative and positive, are natural parts of humanity.

Justin Dupree June 6, 2013 at 1:58 pm

I love that “top ten” list… something that has always irked me about the wildly popular teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh is how simplistic they are.. how they try to make one’s whole mental world, even that part of it which is violent and destructive, seem “cute”. He tells you, for instance, too look at your anger as a little baby that needs to be taken care of. Well whose anger is a little baby? My anger is a vicious monster. It wants to eat me!

Nhat Hahn also suggests you walk around all day with a half smile on. Whenever you’re upset, return to that half-smile. What kind of dissociative nonsense is this? I can’t believe how popular this man is. I bet Jack the Ripper had a little half smile on his face all the time too.

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