Comments on: What You Say to Yourself is More Important Than You Think http://mindfulconstruct.com/2010/01/19/what-you-say-to-yourself-is-more-important-than-you-think/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:45:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Why You Can Never Be 100% Politically Correct | Mindful Construct http://mindfulconstruct.com/2010/01/19/what-you-say-to-yourself-is-more-important-than-you-think/#comment-46489 Why You Can Never Be 100% Politically Correct | Mindful Construct Fri, 06 May 2011 13:05:02 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=4529#comment-46489 [...] But all we can do now is make sure that we are heard today. And really, we only need to be heard — by ourselves. [...] [...] But all we can do now is make sure that we are heard today. And really, we only need to be heard — by ourselves. [...]

]]> By: Melissa Karnaze http://mindfulconstruct.com/2010/01/19/what-you-say-to-yourself-is-more-important-than-you-think/#comment-4152 Melissa Karnaze Sun, 24 Jan 2010 20:17:56 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=4529#comment-4152 <strong>Haider</strong>, yes the overlap can be complex. Self-parenting from my point of view, goes beyond verbal communication, which is one reason why I glued in to the self talk aspect of it here. <strong>Kelley</strong>, it's great to hear the article feels personal, that's exactly what I aim for. :) I've found that whenever I'm struggling with how I'm treating myself, it's refreshing to be around young children again, because they remind you just how delicate the human psyche is, and how you need to apply that same patience and care toward yourself. What's a challenge for me is not so much the verbal conversations (because that just requires a lot of practice), but the "conversations" that take place at an even deeper level, you could call it a subconscious one. Where I don't have conscious awareness of thinking that I'm stupid... but that somewhere along the line I did have some subconscious "I'm stupid" appraisal that then showed up in some negative emotion later on. It's traceable through being mindful of the emotions, but it can often slip by without immediate notice. Haider, yes the overlap can be complex. Self-parenting from my point of view, goes beyond verbal communication, which is one reason why I glued in to the self talk aspect of it here.

Kelley, it’s great to hear the article feels personal, that’s exactly what I aim for. :)

I’ve found that whenever I’m struggling with how I’m treating myself, it’s refreshing to be around young children again, because they remind you just how delicate the human psyche is, and how you need to apply that same patience and care toward yourself.

What’s a challenge for me is not so much the verbal conversations (because that just requires a lot of practice), but the “conversations” that take place at an even deeper level, you could call it a subconscious one. Where I don’t have conscious awareness of thinking that I’m stupid… but that somewhere along the line I did have some subconscious “I’m stupid” appraisal that then showed up in some negative emotion later on. It’s traceable through being mindful of the emotions, but it can often slip by without immediate notice.

]]> By: Kelley Mitchell http://mindfulconstruct.com/2010/01/19/what-you-say-to-yourself-is-more-important-than-you-think/#comment-4149 Kelley Mitchell Sun, 24 Jan 2010 18:13:24 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=4529#comment-4149 This was another profound post for me Melissa. I usually read your posts early in the morning when its quiet here so I can better absorb what you've said to me. And it does indeed seem as if you write just to me. My inner conversations have not been healthy as of late, and it helped when you put it in terms of self-parent being logical and self-child being emotional. With any child, you would never tell them that they're stupid, but that's just the destructive behavior that I've been doing. Thank you for bringing up how important it is. I will certainly be paying more attention to it now. This was another profound post for me Melissa. I usually read your posts early in the morning when its quiet here so I can better absorb what you’ve said to me. And it does indeed seem as if you write just to me. My inner conversations have not been healthy as of late, and it helped when you put it in terms of self-parent being logical and self-child being emotional. With any child, you would never tell them that they’re stupid, but that’s just the destructive behavior that I’ve been doing.

Thank you for bringing up how important it is. I will certainly be paying more attention to it now.

]]> By: Haider http://mindfulconstruct.com/2010/01/19/what-you-say-to-yourself-is-more-important-than-you-think/#comment-4148 Haider Sun, 24 Jan 2010 13:46:24 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=4529#comment-4148 Self-parenting sounds very interesting, and I look forward to checking out John's work. There's an area of overlap between self-talk and self-parenting, but much more to them than where they overlap. This overlap can be: self-talk as self-parenting and self-parenting as self-talk. It seems that Melissa has focused only on this area, rather than say that the two are identical. Very interesting article, as usual. :) Self-parenting sounds very interesting, and I look forward to checking out John’s work.

There’s an area of overlap between self-talk and self-parenting, but much more to them than where they overlap. This overlap can be: self-talk as self-parenting and self-parenting as self-talk. It seems that Melissa has focused only on this area, rather than say that the two are identical.

Very interesting article, as usual. :)

]]> By: Melissa Karnaze http://mindfulconstruct.com/2010/01/19/what-you-say-to-yourself-is-more-important-than-you-think/#comment-4145 Melissa Karnaze Sun, 24 Jan 2010 09:21:18 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=4529#comment-4145 Thanks for stopping by John. I look forward to the day when "self-parenting" is a well-known phrase. For now, I approach the topic with different words because these concepts take time to build up to, and people are more familiar with "self-talk" in general than actually parenting their Inner Child. If you have any specific constructive feedback about how this article "keeps everyone ignorant about what’s really going on," and how that could be changed, feel free to share it here. Most Mindful Construct articles promote self-parenting, although with different sets of lingo and perspective. :) Thanks for stopping by John.

I look forward to the day when “self-parenting” is a well-known phrase. For now, I approach the topic with different words because these concepts take time to build up to, and people are more familiar with “self-talk” in general than actually parenting their Inner Child.

If you have any specific constructive feedback about how this article “keeps everyone ignorant about what’s really going on,” and how that could be changed, feel free to share it here. Most Mindful Construct articles promote self-parenting, although with different sets of lingo and perspective. :)

]]> By: John Pollard http://mindfulconstruct.com/2010/01/19/what-you-say-to-yourself-is-more-important-than-you-think/#comment-4144 John Pollard Sun, 24 Jan 2010 03:59:02 +0000 http://mindfulconstruct.com/?p=4529#comment-4144 Melissa, Thanks for the mention. Just for the record, what you are describing is not "self-talk" it's self-parenting. The "self-talk" is "self-parenting" it's a conversation based on parental dynamics. Calling it self-talk is like calling writing "word talk", or making love "sex talk" or exercising "muscle talk" or digestion "enzyme talk." Calling self-parenting, "self-talk" misses the whole point and keeps everyone ignorant about what's really going on. John Melissa,
Thanks for the mention.
Just for the record, what you are describing is not “self-talk” it’s self-parenting. The “self-talk” is “self-parenting” it’s a conversation based on parental dynamics. Calling it self-talk is like calling writing “word talk”, or making love “sex talk” or exercising “muscle talk” or digestion “enzyme talk.”
Calling self-parenting, “self-talk” misses the whole point and keeps everyone ignorant about what’s really going on.

John

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