by Melissa Karnaze

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How anger is created in the body

In the introduction to his book, Where can i order ZOPICLONE without prescription, Uses of Emotion: Nature’s Vital Gift, Psychologist Kenneth S. Isaacs argues against the notion of emotions being stored in the body.

He explains that emotion is merely a “nerve-mediated mental process,” whereby:

"[T]he sensory data transmitted to the central nervous system and the message of response speedily move as electrical impulses along nerve fiber in pulsing action and then subside."

He believes that because the nerve impulses of emotion come and go (which is true for various central nervous system mechanisms), cheap ZOPICLONE no rx, once an emotion is experienced, it is gone from the body.

And then, ZOPICLONE pics, only thought processes and memories that can evoke similar emotional responses remain. BUY ZOPICLONE NO PRESCRIPTION, According to Isaacs, these similar responses are not to be mistaken as the original emotional event.

Anger gets stored in an indirect way

Isaacs is not entirely arguing against the notion of emotion being stored in the body.

When the thought processes and memories that evoke similar emotional responses remain -- they are essentially stored in the brain in subconscious cognitive networks.

Meaning that under the right circumstances, when those cognitive networks are activated in the same way, buying ZOPICLONE online over the counter, the same type of angry response will be triggered once again.

From an outside observer, it looks like the anger never really went away. It was just stored until a later time when it had reason to come back out, BUY ZOPICLONE NO PRESCRIPTION. Doses ZOPICLONE work, What's happening is that the cognitive precursors of that anger never went away.

They were just stored until a later time when an environmental trigger reactivated the "angry" circuit.

Anger gets stored in the form of unresolved thought processes

Remember, Emotion = Thought + Meaning (Expressed as Feeling).

When a person gets angry, ZOPICLONE without prescription, they have certain thoughts that have a certain meaning -- their angry feeling is a natural conclusion to that meaning.

To illustrate:

    Thought: He's not talking to me after I refused to lend him twenty bucks.

    Meaning: He's not talking to me because he doesn't like me anymore because I refused to lend him twenty bucks.

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BUY ZOPICLONE NO PRESCRIPTION, Thought processes may or may not be accurate. Oftentimes they're patterned by dysfunctional beliefs systems. And their meaning is derived from an Ego-centric point of view. ZOPICLONE long term, Whether or not the thought processes are accurate or functional is beside the point.

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How anger gets stored in Johnny's body

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The principal thinks Johnny's just got a lot of anger inside of him. That he's a troubled kid who has it rough at home, order ZOPICLONE no prescription, and takes out his aggression on the playground.

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From Johnny's teacher's point of view, it's not that Johnny has stored anger, it's that he doesn't yet have the cognitive and behavioral resources to confront Sally when she tries to walk all over him. He doesn't yet know how to set his boundaries with her, ZOPICLONE online cod.

The result of her violating his boundaries is that he immediately experiences the warning signal of danger, or anger. Because letting someone walk all over you is dangerous to your health and well-being. BUY ZOPICLONE NO PRESCRIPTION, Johnny's teacher might explain the situation to the principal in this way: "Well, Johnny's angry because of the way that Sally treats him. ZOPICLONE dosage, Since he never deals with that anger or responds to the situation in a different way -- the anger never goes away. That's why he's angry all the time -- the anger is stored in him in an indirect way. He doesn't know how to deal with Sally and he sees her everyday."

If Johnny's lucky enough to go to a school where emotional intelligence is a core component of the curriculum, then Johnny's teacher would likely step in and give Johnny a chance to recognize his feelings and why they are being triggered in such a way.

Pitfalls to anger-gets-stored-in-the-body thinking

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Which leads to a general phobia of experiencing and expressing negative emotion.

Isaacs comments on how various branches of mental health have caused more damage than good by subscribing to the emotions-stored-in-the-body model:

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This is why most aims of therapy and self-help are to shift you away from the negative emotions so that you can bask in the positive ones. Negative emotions aren't handled with enough maturity, and aren't highly regarded as valuable tools you can work with, is ZOPICLONE safe. BUY ZOPICLONE NO PRESCRIPTION, When you view emotions as invaders of the body, it's easy to regard them as the enemy. It's also easy to see them as having no value, which in itself is very dangerous and polarizing thinking.

Of course, ZOPICLONE used for, this view is just the covert one that you have to pay close attention to in order to notice, as the field of mental health overtly takes the opposite stance.

Pitfalls to anger-doesn't-get-stored-in-the-body thinking

The website for the PBS three-part series, This Emotional Life, sums it up this overt stance nicely:

"Venting is the worst way to manage anger; a better strategy is allowing yourself to calm down, discount ZOPICLONE, such as by counting to 10 or taking deep breaths"

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According to this perspective, you don't have to worry about anger storing up in the body because it doesn't work that way.

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The anger-doesn't-get-stored-in-the-body perspective makes it really easy for people to get lazy with their emotional hygiene.

By evading the response ability to what their anger signals -- and denying that it's their job to work with their anger, ZOPICLONE without prescription. Which is not the same as making it go away.

Why you need to know how anger gets stored in the body

The extent to which emotions are physically stored in the body remains to be further explored by science, but we do know that memories and thoughts underpin emotional reactions -- and that they can remain unchanged, ZOPICLONE coupon, or "stored" in subconscious cognitive networks. BUY ZOPICLONE NO PRESCRIPTION, When those memories and thoughts remain unaltered (as do their emotional counterparts), you cannot assess them at a conscious-thought level and therefore you cannot reprogram them with long-term success.

Meaning, you can't change your response to a situation and stop getting so angrily triggered by it.

The link between anger and compassion

If you view undesirable emotions simply as links to the thinking behind them, then you can create a roadmap for effectively transmuting a mindset of blame (which naturally leads to anger) to one of gratitude (which naturally leads to compassion), get ZOPICLONE.

The epitome of working constructively with your anger is removing yourself from the victim mindset, reestablishing your power in a balanced way, and viewing your former adversary through eyes of compassion.

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Compassion is a by-product of the transmutation of anger into response ability, BUY ZOPICLONE NO PRESCRIPTION.

But having "compassion" for your adversaries is mostly misunderstood, because it's main ingredient -- anger -- is horribly misunderstood. As we've just seen, the field of mental health has cognitive dissonance about the value of anger.

And then there are the typical paths to compassion that love to skip over the anger and onto the good stuff.

The transmutation of anger into response ability doesn't take place when you choose to use meditation in an escapist way, pretend that everything is fine, or play the forgiveness game.

What do you think?

Do you find it helpful to regard anger as something that can be stored in your body.

Or do you prefer not to view anger in this way.

Is there anything would you like to see explored further on the topic of anger. And its relationship to compassion.

Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, or feelings, in the comments below.


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WN March 8, 2010 at 12:40 pm

Oh man, this is totally a huge piece of the puzzle. Emotions stored in the cognitive networks–that’s where it goes and that’s where it stays until you can transform it into something that you can own and change the perspective on.

I am Johnny. The above playground analogy is my life that plays out within the walls of my home everyday. Sally is my baby’s mother and my 16 month-old son is the thing that requires us to see each other everyday–and live together. And Johnny’s anger is my own.

I’m deathly afraid of confronting Sally, because I’m scared of “the fallout.” Not that I’ve never confronted her on minor things, but if I really told her how I feel about her, not holding back, the backlash is what terrifies me. There’s so much at stake (in my mind.) But I know it must happen one day.

Emotional hygiene–I love that phrase!

Right now I feel about as filthy as they come.

Gratitude leads to compassion. I’ve always believed that in some form or another.

Thank you for this inspiring post.

Haider March 9, 2010 at 8:26 am

Excellent post, Melissa.

I don’t believe that we ever need to “vent out” in order to effectively work with our emotions. Since emotions are responses to meanings, we have to understand what the meanings behind our emotions are, and work on those.

What I do believe to be necessary is giving our emotions verbal expression, so that we are clear on what’s making us angry, which often boils down to the thought patterns we apply to life circumstances.

The reason why people who vent out need to continuously vent out is that they haven’t replaced their destructive thought patterns with constructive ones. This is where I see spirituality overlapping with psychology.

Essentially, spirituality is about seeing the bigger picture of life. We often get angry when we focus on what was said and done to us, without acknowledging that the people who do and say hurtful things have their own issues to deal with, and are struggling to deal effectively with life’s challenges (and especially in dealing with other people).

Looking at the world from a wider angle, and seeing how hurtful actions usually stem from weakness should make us feel compassion towards others, as you say.

FYI, besides the fact that I agree with most of your ideas on psychological well-being, I really appreciate the scientific information you include in your posts. :D

Melissa Karnaze March 9, 2010 at 1:31 pm

WN, I had a gut feeling to add that story. :)

I look forward to discussing the topic of gratitude further. Compassion is sort of taken for granted as the same thing as forgiveness, but it’s the genuine “thank you” that’s key.

Haider, I agree that unending venting of anger comes from not actually getting to the core of the anger and then letting that awareness mobilize you constructively. And that’s probably why venting gets such a bad rep. It’s not done in an effective way.

Effective venting is powerful stuff, verbalizing emotion in ways that sometimes talking alone won’t get at.

Looking at the world from a wider angle, and seeing how hurtful actions usually stem from weakness should make us feel compassion towards others, as you say.

This is also how I view compassion. The trick is, because we’re clouded by our goggles of emotional experience, we have to clear out things like anger before we can see the wider picture more clearly.

I’m glad the science bits are helpful. It’s my undergraduate study of science that spurred me to see response ability so clearly, so naturally, it’s part of the package. :P There’s tons more science I’d like to explore and weave in!

Sangeetha November 20, 2010 at 6:11 am

One of the way to stop anger is stop thinking at that moment. Thanks for your article.

John March 6, 2012 at 11:37 am

I come from a background of sexual abuse on both sides of my family, and I can say that it’s been my experience that this toxic anger is about survival. It means keeping my role in a survival unit. The kind of anger involved in codependency is pre-verbal and infant level. It has to work itself out in unexpected ways. And the brain will always be looking to stop you. One of the best ways I’ve seen that shows anger is still in me at a codependent level is to notice how I live and accept the western view of “unisex”, this idea of two de-gendered “people” “communicating” “intimately”. It’s the anger stopover in almost all this kind of work.

Julia July 8, 2014 at 10:48 am

Hi, I’ve recently discovered your webpage and I’m in love with how emotions are honored.. how ALL emotions are honored.. I’m confused with this mass understanding that emotions is bad and should be stuffed etc.. I’ve discovered this through personal struggle with emotions (still am).
Anyhow, I would like to give in my input about how I feel that emotion is stored in the body, or the energetic body.. I may sound spiritual or with some eastern philosophy, but I’ve learned that qi/chi is related to the flow of our emotions. I’ve had a terrible case of fibromyalgia and scoliosis that wouldn’t get better with any type of massage or acupuncture, until I learned about processing backed up emotions.. I would feel my tense muscle (tender points – which are kind of all over my body) flutter or as if an air is fizzling out of it (like how sprite or champagne would fizzle) – as my emotions are processed. Its a very physical symptom (which I had no prior knowledge to these sensations). I sometimes feel cold and calm sensation flowing in those tense area as it is loosened up. I don’t know what to make of this but to call it ’emotions stuck in my body’.

But once again, I’m so glad I found your web!

Jon Porecki June 8, 2015 at 10:11 pm

I know my number one emotion that I repress, fear, and avoid is anger. It has terrible consequences, and has become such an destructive and unbalancing issue that I simply have to transform the way I look at it in a way that honors it. My family, religious background, society, have influenced much of the dysfunction my entire life. But I’m the one who can make the big change of how I relate to anger and start exemplifying it’s role in human life. Thank you thank you for the opportunity, I’ve found little else with the same clarity.

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