Thank you for taking the time to respond. It was very thoughtful of you
I continue to figure out what my preferences are ~ and I know it is not where you have group think.

It is not my path ~ nor do I want to disturb my sister’s and brother’s who are on this path.

In Metta,
Jalus

Namaste’

WOW, WOW, WOW

I brought up right and wrong to make a distinction between logical and illogical. It’s okay to be illogical and wrong and make mistakes. It usually fouls something up in your life when you go around doing it, but you wouldn’t learn if you didn’t try it out.

I’ve been wrong a helluva lot in my life, and I continue to be. It’s not about killing the wrong and embracing the right, but there comes a time when, if you’ve put yourself through enough experiences, you’re going to unavoidably encounter some pretty wrongheaded people and you’re going to have to have a standard of what is acceptable and what is not. And it does become absolutism because you realize that beating around the bush just don’t work.

The goal is to build a life. You can build your life without any standards and see what happens. Maybe you’ll get lucky and find prosperity. Or, you could take the higher percentage shot and build your life on a solid, time-tested foundation. There are such things as do’s and don’ts in the construction of your life. Who are you going to let in the door? What are you going to tile your roof with?

I see the seduction of living in a world beyond good and evil, but the reality is that we are far from it.

This blog is not designed to be scripture, but perhaps it will inspire you to figure out what your own preferences are.

Thank you for posting my comment. I have read your reply and given it thought, but I still find myself in disagreement. Particularly, I feel that my comment was approached in an assumptive manner, and that my motives behind posting were questioned rather than the content I was trying to address. The end of your post asked your readers:

“What do you think about derek’s comment? What do you think about how I’m responding to it?

Are there any other comments on the site you’d like to see featured in this article series?”

I feel I replied in a way that addressed your questions. I think derek’s comment was made in good faith and tried to offer productive points of discussion. I feel your response was unhelpful and defensive given its content. And I expressed my disinterest, as a regular reader, in this article series that “juices” your commenters. True, my comment was not full of praise, but I tried to offer my critique responsibly, addressing your specific questions, and using language that expressed how I felt/thought.

In reply, you told me I was being negative, that I am falling short of being mindful, and that my comment was ripe for future example-making. Additionally, I was told I was placing blame and afraid of facing your “brute honesty”, your version of “truth”.

As you say yourself, saying I’m wrong doesn’t make you right. I believe this statement to be true. I would imagine then, that telling me that I am negative does not make you positive either. I have never read your posts with the mindset of creating absoluteness in “right” and “wrong”, but rather to deconstruct these constructs, among others. I feel more time was spent here trying to make me wrong rather than finding balance and continuation in discussion, which is something I value in a blog.

I wanted to take the time to reply to you as you took the time to reply to my comment. That being said, I do not anticipate that I will continue as a reader of your blog. I no longer feel that this blog is constructive to my own personal growth or learning to mindfully look at life’s constructs and truths. Best of luck in your endeavors, I hope that we both will both learn and grow in productive ways into the future.

From what I’ve noticed, the readers who attack me do so because they’re in (unacknowledged) pain or conflict. So when their comment goes unvalidated, they’re still stuck in the rut, and it may be harder to ignore at that point. Trying to dump your stuff on others or blame them for your own stuff exacerbates the pain and conflict.

Thanks for sharing that fitting story!

Cory, gee, thanks. :P Seriously, I very much appreciate your thoughtful and validating comment. :)

“Now, derek or Esther or anyone can come back and try to juice Melissa, but most people don’t, because I don’t think that they believe in their position strongly enough.”

The psychology of disagreement is huge, but in short, I think the reason that people don’t believe in their position strongly enough to coherently disagree with me (at least by the track record so far) is that they lack the basic ingredient for believing in yourself:

True self-love and self-acceptance, that requires a having a healthy relationship with all of your emotions (and of course ego) — which then leads to self-confidence.

Since I write about having a healthy relationship with all of your emotions, someone who attacks me naturally doesn’t have a healthy relationship with their emotions.

You can imagine it gets ridiculous when it comes to the ego articles. Someone who attacks pro-ego sentiment is truly at war with their own ego (their own self) and that war permeates their ability to be effective not only in conversation, but in life.

And this is one reason why people argue about things, or what’s right or wrong “out there” in the world — they’re too afraid or unwilling to talk about their real feelings (especially the egotistical ones) and what’s going on with their experience of reality.

I’m reminded of what Seraph says in Reloaded, “You do not truly know someone until you fight them.” People don’t realize that when they try to fight me on my own lawn, they’re giving me a lesson in psychology.

“These comments are precisely why I shun eastern crap. What a load. It is just another way for people to escape their own stuff… I feel extremely fortunate because I am able to see it. And so I fired the boss and refuse to replace him. This was step one to getting real and life is a big, scary place sometimes when a person truly accepts freedom. This is why most don’t do it.”

I think it’s very rare Anon to see it so clearly, it’s minority thinking. Most if not all eastern/New Age mentality is about masking the fact that life on Earth is chaotic and scary.

They load up story-telling and abstraction and systems to avoid facing this. They call others outside their group “too negative,” unenlightened, or in the dark. Or they tell them how they should behave without being asked, as if they’re so enlightened and noble to have all the answers.

Thanks for you insightful comment.

I have no desire to disturb those of you are “right fighters;” I leave now sending you Metta on your path.

Namaste’
Jalus

Some people are never going to understand human constructs. But I’m glad I found this blog and see that there are others who question things when constructs move in and begin advancing an agenda outside of the conscious awareness of the majority. Not being the only one to see it makes human existence feel a little less ridiculous.