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When I let go of the fantasy of "the perfect guy" I began to find myself. And from that state, I stopped expecting for meto be perfect. CARDIZEM FOR SALE, Perfection doesn't exist. It can't be measured; there's no certified scale. CARDIZEM samples, Perfection is beneath human. Hitting perfection means that you check off all the right boxes, getting the perfect score. Humans are so beyond check boxes. They're insanely complex, with unlimited potential, CARDIZEM FOR SALE.

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Behind every nagging thought or unpleasant feeling, CARDIZEM use, is an invitation. To learn more about who you are and why you think and feel in the ways you do. If you follow that invitation, work with your negative emotions, you'll find a guiding light that shows you what you want to be living for.

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Then you're ready to live.

To treasure each day for what it is. To love those you care about with all your heart, in action and feeling. To be brave enough to face the fears and vulnerability that come with loving.

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How about you?

What life lessons have you learned from your pain. Feel free to share them in the comments below.

This article was inspired by and written for Abubakar Jamil's Life Lessons Series.

If you'd like to publish your life lessons on your own site, let Abubakar know and he might include it in the upcoming ebook on the topic.

About the Author: Melissa Karnaze is the founder of Mindful Construct. She shares ten more powerful life lessons in her free e-class, Your Life is Your Construct.


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Abubakar Jamil August 13, 2010 at 12:40 pm


Such a wonderful post and thank you so much for your valuable contribution to the Life Lessons Series.

I can relate to your lessons and specially the underlying message.

Haider August 13, 2010 at 1:50 pm

Beautiful post, Melissa!

I have a lot of thoughts about the issues you’ve raised, so my head is hurting right now.

The points that I found most relevant to my own life experiences are #2 and #5.

I usually don’t retaliate when others say hurtful things to me because I can’t bring myself to hurt others. And when I do, I sense their pain, which amplifies my own suffering.

I also have a tendency to take on the responsibility of making other people happy. Usually I’m unable to satisfy this wish, whether due to work and family commitments, or because I have my own demons and insecurities to deal with.

Besides, happiness is a choice, and others must choose how they deal with their own challenges. I can never make decisions on other people’s behalf. So it’s healthier to suggest a different shoe size, rather than wear their shoes.

And as for perfection, I can safely say that my relationship with my wife is always strengthened after a disagreement. Trying to avoid disagreements to maintain a perfect image of a perfect relationship undermines the relationship, rather than help it grow and evolve.

I feel like hugging myself right now. ;)

Fate August 13, 2010 at 3:16 pm

Nice post Melissa.

Thanks Haider for recommending it and knowing you, I say you are very similar to your older sister :)

I am writing a novel that would discuss some of the lessons I have learned. Definitely through pain and disappointments that we wake up to learn new lessons.
It is when the people you love let you down that you get to realize your own strength and I quote “Invictus” on one of the lessons learned that;

“I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul”

and what Haider was refer to as choice :)

Evan August 13, 2010 at 10:48 pm

The big one for me: stay open, stay with it and it works.

I also think we can learn painlessly and from good things. Not all the pain is necessary in my view.

Pat August 15, 2010 at 5:01 am

I have thought in the past that I would love to go back to teen years and do it all differently. That ends of taking in part of my early adulthood.

Then I realize if I hadn’t been through that pain, and this pain and that dissapointment I would not be who I am nor with the person I married. I negate everything that means something to me.

A couple pieces of advice have heeded me well.
A smile doesn’t cost you anything and can take you a long way.
To grieve is human, to suffer is a choice.

Thanks for the wonderful post, Melissa.

Melissa Karnaze August 16, 2010 at 8:23 am

Abubakar, thanks so much for the inspiration and including this in your series!

Haider, happiness definitely is a choice. One of the downsides of trying to be responsible for how happy others are — is that you become hypersensitive to what they could be happy for right now. And when they choose not to accept it into their lives, there’s nothing you can do about it! Surrender isn’t easy, but it’s really the only way.

“And as for perfection, I can safely say that my relationship with my wife is always strengthened after a disagreement. Trying to avoid disagreements to maintain a perfect image of a perfect relationship undermines the relationship, rather than help it grow and evolve.”

That’s a great way to put it. You can’t suffocate a relationship for the sake of appearances. Thanks for sharing your experiences!

Hi Fate, what you say can’t be emphasized enough:

“when the people you love let you down that you get to realize your own strength

This is one of those lost secrets of life. Society has you believe that following your own grieving process and allowing yourself to feel vulnerable are no-no’s — too weak and intimate. But without that journey, you’ll never tap into your true strength.

Evan, it’s amazing how much you can learn from something if you just stay open and with it!

Pat, that’s a good point about negating your life when you long to undue the pains of the past. I think it goes beyond that too. When people long to make everything happy and “perfect” right now, they negate themselves, their true feelings, and their humanness.

“To grieve is human, to suffer is a choice.”

Thank you for sharing this Pat! I’m going to let my noodle bake on this for a while :P

Bhala August 17, 2010 at 9:11 am

Hi Melissa,

this is a real eye opener for me. Thanks for this wonderful post. I just came out off a very bad figth with my best friend,and incidentally stumbled upon this post. i was instantly able to relate myself to most of the points mentioned here , which if i followed will benfit both of us. glad that i read through the post. :)

kristalfiel August 20, 2010 at 7:00 am

i am very much relating to this article…i’ve been through a deep hurt which dragged me to pain…
its very true that we really dont know the value of a thing until its gone…ive lost a lot of it already..but then, i had to accept that its maybe its really not meant to last with me…
ive also been very conscious to perfection,im insecure and inferior…and yeah it caused me no good…ive been left being stuck to my insecurities,felt underestimated,discriminated and rejected…yet i was wrong,i havent seen the side which i am appreciated,admired and loved…i was wrong when i allowed pessimism invade me and ruin me…
i have experienced being disliked…worst way that was…
ive been annihilated in front of the peoples eyes by the issues far from what is true…ive been down,i felt alone,i felt ruined…
but then, my eyes where opened…if not because of what happened,i wouldnt be able to know the people who are really true to me and those people who really know me and that how they see me as a person positively were not change just bec.of what that someone did…i cried enough for those who are unworthy of my tears…
but now…i am coping up,i am standing tall again and i am moving forward…

thanks for inspiring a lot of people like me…
definitely we are learning from the pain and that will make us better individuals…^_^

Melissa Karnaze August 20, 2010 at 11:35 am


Thank you for your heartfelt comments!

“if not because of what happened,i wouldnt be able to know the people who are really true to me and those people who really know me and that how they see me as a person positively were not change just bec.of what that someone did”

It’s much healthier to know who really does care about you, and to not waste yourself trying to get the approval of those who don’t. What a powerful lesson. :)

kristalfiel September 5, 2010 at 5:23 am

thank you miss M…

Tito Philips, Jnr. February 6, 2011 at 2:05 pm

Thank you for sharing these Life lessons Melissa.
Most of them I can relate with, especially because I have gone through a very painful break up and have learnt so much from the experience how true it is to first find yourself before going out to find the significant other. Most times, it’s those who don’t enjoy themselves enough that end up hurting others in a relationship.

Melissa Karnaze February 6, 2011 at 3:45 pm

Tito, I agree, it’s easier to hurt loved ones when you aren’t taking care of yourself. Your relationship with you is always involved in your relationships with others!

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