by Melissa Karnaze

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A question from a reader

Reader Husain emailed me about this issue. He posed an interesting question that touches upon two major topics in the emotion regulation literature, LAMICTAL class, cognitive reappraisal and emotional suppression.

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If you are trying to change the neural pathways you've formed, would this not be in this and other cases repressing emotions which, LAMICTAL gel, ointment, cream, pill, spray, continuous-release, extended-release, I know is not good?

It depends on the excuse.

Strong excuses

LAMICTAL FOR SALE, Strong excuses, meaning ones that you agree with, can help you "bypass" the negative emotional response. In the emotion regulation literature, this is referred to as cognitive reappraisal.

Cognitive reappraisal

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Reappraisal is the act of consciously appraising an event in a way that works for you (perhaps after you initially appraised the event in a way that didn't work for you, which can account for the "re").

Studies show that reappraisal is an effective strategy for "regulating" negative emotions, LAMICTAL interactions, compared to the strategy of simply suppressing, or repressing your emotions.

An example of a strong excuse

"I'm not going to get angry when people cut me off on the highway because it puts me in a bad mood -- which increases my chances of getting into a fatal accident, LAMICTAL FOR SALE. Australia, uk, us, usa, I would rather remain a safe driver than get upset at another driver over reckless lane-changing. In the bigger picture, where I'm most concerned about my safety and well-being, if someone cuts me off it's not going to ruin my day."

An excuse like this anchors into your safety and well-being -- two things that really matter, order LAMICTAL from United States pharmacy. Keeping them close to heart can help you stay centered when that reckless lane-change happens, no matter how annoying it may be. LAMICTAL no prescription, Which means that yes, you can keep your cool -- at least while still on the road.

Weak excuses

LAMICTAL FOR SALE, Weak excuses, meaning ones that you don't fully agree with, won't help you "bypass" the negative emotional response. Or at least not in the long-term. Instead, buying LAMICTAL online over the counter, these excuses will mask your real emotional response. In the emotion regulation literature, Order LAMICTAL from mexican pharmacy, this fits in the category of emotional suppression.

Emotional suppression

When you're experiencing negative emotions and want to avoid them, stuff them, ignore them, LAMICTAL street price, or "make them go away," you're essentially trying to suppress the emotions.

Studies have shown that for the most part this is an ineffective strategy that can actually work against you, and that you can't always hide your true feelings from someone else, LAMICTAL FOR SALE. LAMICTAL cost, The deeper problem with suppression is that you rob yourself of an invaluable opportunity to work with and learn from your negative emotions, which are designed to serve you.

An example of a weak excuse

"I'm not going to get angry when people cut me off on the highway because it puts me in a bad mood -- and that's not how I want to behave. I would rather remain calm and at peace with myself than get upset at another driver over reckless lane-changing, purchase LAMICTAL online. In the bigger picture, where I'm most concerned about not letting my anger get the best of me and remaining a compassionate person, Purchase LAMICTAL for sale, if someone cuts me off it's not going to ruin my day."

This reasoning doesn't anchor into your safety and well-being -- at least not in a clear way and direct way. LAMICTAL FOR SALE, Instead, it centers around the desire to be socially acceptable based on standards that you probably haven't hand-picked totally consciously.

In other words, if you don't have compelling (self-respecting) reasons to not get upset, you will get upset, LAMICTAL mg. And just because you don't foam at the mouth doesn't mean that you aren't harboring upset at a more subtle level.

Emotion regulation is a process

Husain's second question:

"Also in this example as well, Buy cheap LAMICTAL no rx, if you try this act of making an excuse, some part of you is still aware that you are angry on some level, so will that not make a difference?"

Yes and no, and this gets tricky, buy LAMICTAL no prescription.

To a certain extent, you have the final say in how emotional you'll let yourself express about an upsetting incident. And you can also decide to acknowledge that you're upset -- but that you'll rant about that later, when it's safer and more appropriate, LAMICTAL FOR SALE. Where can i cheapest LAMICTAL online, Try not to think of emotional reactions as being set in stone or completely linear. The thought-emotion system is dynamic. Your thoughts fuel emotions, and emotions fuel thoughts, LAMICTAL from canada. Thoughts and emotions give feedback to other thoughts and emotions, affecting your overall and longer-lasting thoughts and emotions about an event. LAMICTAL FOR SALE, So if a jerk driver cuts you off on a dangerous highway, and if you want to be able to continue driving safely, your thoughts might need to step in and convince your emotional self to calm down. LAMICTAL without a prescription, At least until you pull off the road. Or, you may decide to let your mouth run but to do so while keeping careful watch on the road so that you stay safe.

It's really up to you, canada, mexico, india, your style, and what's safest and most appropriate for each situation.

Can an excuse ever be 100% strong?

When you're coming up with an excuse to keep your cool -- it's difficult for that excuse to be 100% strong. Meaning, you may never know if you've completely "rid" yourself of the emotional response, LAMICTAL FOR SALE. That's just not something you can measure on a day-to-day basis (and it may not be measurable in a more controlled setting like a research lab). But that 100% is also not as important as you might think.

What's important is that you can drive safely, while at the same time being honest with how you feel on a regular basis so that you can healthily engage in your relationships with other people (as well as your relationship with yourself). Like the rest of life, it's a giant balancing act. LAMICTAL FOR SALE, And asking such questions gives you that much more advantage. Because after asking those questions and thinking more carefully about your options, you'll be more mindful of whichever process you choose when the next upsetting incident does occur. You'll be keeping tabs on whether you choose cognitive reappraisal, emotional suppression, a little bit of both, or perhaps even something different. (And how well it worked.)

What do you think.

About the Author: Melissa Karnaze founded Mindful Construct to explore emotion regulation in day-to-day life. She loves to hear from readers in the comments, often tailors articles based on reader feedback, and would love to hear from you.

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Steven H October 1, 2010 at 12:27 pm

“Try not to think of emotional reactions as being set in stone or completely linear. The thought-emotion system is dynamic. Your thoughts fuel emotions, and emotions fuel thoughts. Thoughts and emotions give feedback to other thoughts and emotions, affecting your overall and longer-lasting thoughts and emotions about an event.”

This is key. Emotions and thoughts are very complex and interdependent. Reason can help regulate emotions, but emotions can also regulate our reason. Neither way is necessarily right or wrong, but it does vary between individuals (similar to Jung’s personality theory about “Thinking Feeling” types ).

Like you mentioned, it is also important to recognize that emotions (like reason) are a mechanism that should benefit us, not hurt us. Sometimes it just makes more sense to feel good, because feeling good is better (and more productive) than feeling bad. That’s my “strong excuse.”

Cory October 1, 2010 at 1:07 pm

Steven H,

I’m glad you pointed out that paragraph. Melissa could write an entire article on that. Maybe we could go so far as to make the argument that thoughts are feelings, and feelings are thoughts. I mean they’re so interrelated and entangled that–could one live without the other?

Maybe the thought-feeling organism is a whole thing and when we deny one part of it then the whole thing fails?

Chris Edgar October 3, 2010 at 3:00 pm

Hi Melissa — thanks for this. It’s an odd facade we tend to hold up in our society: that, when we feel anger, but we don’t think we have a “right” to feel angry, we try to pretend that we don’t have the emotion at all. The thing is, in my experience, when I’m with someone who’s feeling angry, I just get irritated when they try to distract me from what’s actually going on for them. The anger is so loud that it drowns out their words, and they might as well just discuss it with me, “reason” or no “reason.”

Melissa Karnaze October 5, 2010 at 12:37 pm

Thanks for sharing Steven.

Cory, I don’t usually look at thoughts and emotions as being separated — the separation is mostly a social construction. But, for the purpose of this site, I do write about them as being separate, mostly to encourage “baby steps,” since it’s pretty much ingrained that emotions are separate and “out to get” reason.

Also, there are more holistic ways to view human psychology. Personal Construct Theory (by George Kelly) which I’ve been studying, is one. And I’ve said before how Marvin Minsky writes in The Emotion Machine, how a particular emotion is just a particular thinking mode. I think AI research will continue to push this.

Chris, that’s an excellent point. People aren’t as good at hiding their anger as they think. Sometimes all they need is an invitation to share, or to know they won’t be severely punished for having opinions.

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