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"Girls are better than boys"

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They also reported on a body of research demonstrating this "inequality in emotional education."

Letting down our boys

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If a boy's mother (or father) doesn't encourage -- or discourages -- emotional awareness, Canada, mexico, india, expression, and discussion, what happens.

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Boys perform worse at regulating negative emotions

Davis (1995) found that first- and third-grade girls were more sophisticated than boys at hiding negative emotional displays when receiving an undesirable gift (i.e., "baby" toy).

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Do boys lack the ability or motivation to regulate negative emotions?

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So in the game task, DELTASONE images, the stakes were raised -- you'd get something in return for hiding your emotions. Davis found that boys were better at hiding negative emotional displays in the game task compared to the gift task. Purchase DELTASONE online no prescription, This suggests that boys had that ability to hid their negative emotions in the gift task. They just weren't as motivated to do so compared to the game task. How much of that motivation do you think is socially conditioned, DELTASONE FOR SALE. When do parents and society reward men who are motivated for regulating and working with their emotions.

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More research needs to be done to look at "how much" social conditioning has occurred by the first grade.

We're not training boys to be (as) emotionally intelligent

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Mothers took the lead in talking about emotional aspects of the events, and both mothers and fathers "used more emotional utterances when discussing sad events with daughters than with sons."

So the family structure modeled how the woman in the heterosexual parent dyad is more emotionally literate.

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And we wonder by the brains are different.

Parental training is only the beginning

Several other factors continue this emotional un-intelligence training beyond the home -- public education, My DELTASONE experience, cultural norms, pop culture, and of course, growing up to be a responsible adult living in the "real world." Which usually translates to "making a living" by slaving away for dysfunctional patriarchal corporations which predominantly lack empathy, discount DELTASONE.

A boy needs to learn how to have a healthy, and yes masculine, relationship with his emotions, DELTASONE FOR SALE. But the family and greater social systems can miserably fail him.

Emotional intelligence education

There's a bright side to all this too. DELTASONE maximum dosage, The recent surge in emotional intelligence training and research is trickling into schools, benefiting both boys and girls.

You can learn more about this major emotion revolution and three others in the 10-part free e-class, Your Life is Your Construct, DELTASONE natural. DELTASONE FOR SALE, So what do you think. Do have parents and/or society been failing young boys. Is the situation getting better. Where do you think we're headed.

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djbaxter December 3, 2010 at 7:35 pm

There’s a typo in the link for the 10-part e-class (class is misspelled) so it leads to a gnarly 404 page. :)

Melissa Karnaze December 3, 2010 at 7:56 pm

Fixed now, thanks David!

Evan December 4, 2010 at 12:13 am

I’m not sure that women are as good at reading the bodily signals of men.

“So much can be communicated by how close you sit to someone while watching TV.”

I think women are much better at verbal stuff, not so sure about the non-verbal (at least in its male version).

Cory December 6, 2010 at 12:54 pm

I think evolution is to blame for the differences. Men had to hunt and kill without remorse. Remorse would be a defective strategy for survival. A woman’s biggest challenge would be childbirth and childcare for which she would require a lot of empathy for the child.

However, since language and culture started to be passed down, we perpetuate these evolutionary survival tactics in a day and age where we would be better off without them.

Today, men of power and influence need more empathy in order to prevent rendering the human species instinct, and women need more remorselessness if they aim to gain more power and influence!

I can already see distinct gender differences between my 2 yr-old son and the girls at his daycare. And I know once he’s funneled into elementary school, the differences will further widen, and on and on. I think the irony is that people hold the belief that boys will be more successful the more they stuff emotions, when in fact the exact opposite is true. Emotionally intelligent boys will do better in school, follow instructions better, read teacher’s cues better, be more attractive to classmates of both genders, and probably find himself in many leadership positions.

Question: the experiment they did with the gifts, they made the assumption that regulating negative emotions is a facet of emotional intelligence. Girls hid their disappointment better than boys. What do you personally make of this? Are boys less EI for expressing disappointment?

Melissa Karnaze December 6, 2010 at 8:07 pm

Cory, Davis didn’t make that assumption in her article. I added it because I wanted to relate the study to EI. I’m glad you asked.

Personally, I interpret it as: We’re training girls to hide disappointment when receiving a disappointing gift. They’re supposed to fake it.

Davis also found age-related differences for the girls — younger girls appeared to have a harder time faking it, presumably because they were still learning the skill and/or were less confident in their abilities. If they were learning the skill, then it’s likely that some (social) pressure was teaching it to them.

That age effect wasn’t found in the boys. It’s possible that they didn’t want to conform to the pressure of faking it, but I think it’s more likely that they were not under that pressure in the first place. Of course, more research is needed to pick apart these differences!

“Are boys less EI for expressing disappointment?”

It really depends on how you look at it, and what aspects of EI you’re looking at. For instance, research comparing individuals who learn how to “fake it” at a young age (like the girls) with those who don’t (the boys) might find that as adults, the latter group has less barriers in “getting in touch” with (negative) emotions that normally would be stuffed, like due to social pressures, in which case men would be better off. This is hypothetical. And of course, even if boys do express at a younger age, they could still be trained in other ways or later on to stuff — that happens in all sorts of ways.

The point of the study is that boys most likely are less aware of their disappointment in this specific context — girls *have* to be acutely aware in order to hide it. Awareness is a big part of EI.

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