by Melissa Karnaze

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An emotional crutch is something that continually gives you an excuse or a reason to avoid experiencing your true (negative) emotions. It ultimately keeps you stuck in dysfunctional habits that prevent you from truly knowing yourself (a big part of which, is learning from your emotions) and actually being mindful of what's going on in your life, PHENTERMINE FOR SALE.

People who cling to an emotional crutch aren't really ready to change. Denial is a natural defense for an individual who's not yet ready to risk a new way of living, fast shipping PHENTERMINE. To make the conscious choice to change.

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PHENTERMINE FOR SALE, And sometimes, people are ready to risk a new way of living. Buy PHENTERMINE from canada, But they don't have enough of a support system in place to ensure their safety as they experiment with new ways of relating.

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Personal development doesn't happen in a vacuum, PHENTERMINE FOR SALE. PHENTERMINE brand name, We support each other in risking new and healthier behaviors.

It's easy to give up on personal development when you lack social support. So share your goals with at least one person you trust. Or at least start practicing new skills in a social setting, PHENTERMINE wiki. PHENTERMINE FOR SALE, If you can maintain your new skills out there in the world, then you'll have a much better chance at succeeding at those long-term goals.

Don't give up on personal development

Personal development isn't a program. It's a decision. A commitment to making smarter and more mindful choices in life.

If you want to make continual, meaningful, lasting growth and development a natural part of your life, focus on four things:

  1. Start for the right reasons. For any reason to be right, it must come from a place of self-compassion, not judgment or dissatisfaction.
  2. Choose a course of action that involves real work and acknowledges potential challenges (because growth comes with a price).
  3. Be willing to acknowledge your own dysfunctional beliefs that keep you from experiencing pain and other negative emotions -- integrating those aspects of yourself is necessary to the healing process.
  4. Set up robust support systems, PHENTERMINE FOR SALE. It could include daily journaling or blogging, or keeping in touch with a friend. If you want accountability, you have to be willing to try out new behaviors in social situations.

Most importantly, persevere.

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How do you persevere?

Feel free to share your experiences below.

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Cory March 11, 2011 at 11:50 am

This is a beautiful post, Melissa.

The journey does not end. It keeps going. We’re all looking for a finish line, but in actuality, the only finality we will ever find in life, is death.

Since it all comes down to the realization of ourselves as mortal beings, ultimately, what we all search for is faith.

There are too many mysteries in this world. These blanks are filled in with our imaginations, emotions, intuitions, and other intangible, ineffable dark matter.

I believe that growth, like love, is eternal, even after death.

As for the blink of an eye that we are here on Earth as humans, it’s all live and learn. We go down the wrong path sometimes, and if we’re lucky, we figure out it’s wrong and we make corrections. But we wouldn’t know it was wrong if we didn’t take it in the first place.

You’ve gotta have faith in yourself (and your emotional compass) that your journey is right, even when it’s wrong. Personal development is hard like that. But it’s worth it no matter what. And it’s better than doing nothing.

Melissa Karnaze March 11, 2011 at 5:40 pm

Thanks for the beautiful comment Cory!

You’ve gotta have faith in yourself (and your emotional compass) that your journey is right, even when it’s wrong.

So definitely. This is the heart of self-compassion. It’s amazing how realizing your own mortality shifts the way you view and live your life. Personal development can really accelerate that shift.

Sandra Hendricks March 11, 2011 at 10:11 pm

This is a great post Melissa, as many people do indeed stop short with self-help. I agree that there are few short cuts and that self-improvement is a life-long commitment. Learning and growing in love and life is an ongoing process.

I have noticed that many people who begin utilizing good tools and ideas in self-help get feeling better. At this point, they become satisfied and stop working. It is as if they just needed a little relief, and they felt so much better, and that it was good enough. It can be quite damaging when someone does this too. They believe the course of action didn’t work because the good feeling stopped. At this point, problems return along with the doubtful emotions their negative thinking enhances.

Armen Shirvanian March 12, 2011 at 11:40 am

Hi Mellisa.

You have certainly provided many reasons as to why people don’t commit to an improvement path. The support one is a big one. I exercise easily by myself and with others because I know folks who are fit and enjoy basketball and such. If all my friends were out of shape, and I was not near any hiking trails, and so on, it would be more of a struggle to maintain good fitness. I started a workout program recently almost completely due to a friend.

The point about avoiding negative emotions is also very key. Most people won’t say when they are avoiding negative emotions, but the person who eats to avoid depression was depressed right before they ate the food(each time). Very few people show their real problems to the world openly, but those that do are able to correct them way sooner. The tough process comes with a great reward for the few who are not scared about small consequences like looking stupid or appearing unprepared or confused.

Armen Shirvanian March 12, 2011 at 11:40 am

By the way I wasn’t thinking and typed Mellisa instead of Melissa on the last comment. I knew it was Melissa but was thinking about my comment as I typed that.

Melissa Karnaze March 13, 2011 at 10:18 am

I think that’s a good point, Sandra. When self-help is meant to provide immediate relief, it’s easy to ignore the deeper causes, that will return if not addressed. It’s important to regard growth as a process, not an end.

Armen, social support is definitely important for fitness. I did an intensive regimen for four years in college track, and training with teammates makes it much easier, and can also push you to train harder!

Very few people show their real problems to the world openly, but those that do are able to correct them way sooner.

Yes, this is a misconception, that showing your problems is a weakness. When it’s really a strength to be able to address them.

Pat March 13, 2011 at 12:18 pm

What a beautiful post, Melissa! Many times I hear, I should do this BUT…. I usually say when you are ready then the time is right to begin. If you have a ‘but’ in your reasoning there is judgment and you are not ready. Walking through negative emotions can be scary without compassion to look more closely at why they came up in the first place. It is painful but when you come out on the other side with understanding, gratitude and growth and look back you are much stronger to deal with life’s ever unfolding challenges. When we make a space in our lives through compassion for self and faith in possibilities then love unfolds.

Melissa Karnaze March 13, 2011 at 4:04 pm

Thanks Pat! I agree, “but” thinking is a sign of resistance. Maybe it’s legitimate in that the “should” might not really be helpful. Or maybe the person would benefit from that “should.” Either way, it’s more helpful to accept yourself for whatever you decide to do.

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