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{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Jack Bennett | 32000 Days May 8, 2011 at 1:56 pm

Good points. Feelings are absolutely real to the one who feels, whether or not those feelings are “nice” or “convenient” or “fair”.

Of course, some people inevitably attempt to manipulate the feelings of others with shaping and shaming – “you don’t *really* feel that way, do you?”, “it’s not nice to feel like that”, and so forth. (Often but not exclusively, this is adults manipulating children.)

I don’t recall the quote or the source of it (useful, huh?), but I did recently read a quote which basically boiled down to: “If our innermost thoughts were revealed to everyone, we would all be put in jail”.

Which I think is true, and is one of the reasons why I don’t identify with my thoughts or take them all that seriously any more. The thoughts are not “me” or something I take personally – they are just something that happens, like weather. I don’t take a snowflake personally either.

Melissa Karnaze May 8, 2011 at 8:53 pm

Yes, it’s important to acknowledge thoughts, even if they aren’t “correct,” without making them wrong, invalid, or minimizing them. Sure, it means we have to admit that our thoughts and feelings are potentially grossly offensive or even against the law, as you suggest, but it’s better to admit this than to not be aware of it and have an increased chance of subconsciously acting on them.

Kristoffer Martin July 9, 2011 at 7:14 am

It should be noted that your use of “politically correct” is incorrect. Political Correctitude is an advent of political action. It’s defined as “Avoidance of expressions or actions that can be perceived to exclude or marginalize or insult people who are socially disadvantaged or discriminated against”. A person can be highly offensive and still be politically correct. Your example of Neely isn’t this at all. She’s not saying anything that is actually discriminatory against her brother with autism. She is merely stating that she would like her own life. What is sad here is that you’ve taken the words of a child, presumed them to be a state of contrivance where political correctness is necessary or applicable and then translated her words into something that is politically incorrect, where in the original statement wasn’t at all.

Melissa Karnaze July 9, 2011 at 9:38 am

Yes, I’m taking the words of a child because I think it’s important. We learn about political correctness from an early age.

You may not think that “I hope that he doesn’t have to stay with me” excludes/marginalizes/insults people who are socially disadvantaged by autism spectrum disorders, but I don’t think we’d regard this statement as politically correct coming from a politician speaking of their own sibling.

Of course, you’re entitled to disagree.

Kristoffer Martin July 10, 2011 at 6:29 am

I think you’ve completely missed the point, political correctness has nothing to do with moral or offensive tendencies. You’re equating one to the other. In example; if I were a politician and I used the word Black instead of African American I’d be Politically Incorrect, regardless of the intent or inflection given.

Expressing an emotion has intent, as provided in the quote of the child, but its political correctness isn’t measurable or discernible. This is because political correctness is relative to the political state not social state of a community. Go back 150 years and it was politically correct (regardless of if it was morally or ethically correct) to cal an African American an Nigger.

To presume a child of the age of your subject is even truly capable of understanding the political conformities of our current society is a stretch. Further, to assert that her statement is an example of a statement that is politically incorrect is false. Again and again you’re arguing a point not based on facts and presenting an opinion without actual support.

Let us suppose a politician did say what the girl said about her little brother. Would it be politically incorrect or politically correct? Depends on the function and use of the statement and the political sphere it is stated in.

in other words, what is defined as Politically Correct is relative and not an absolute. Something politically incorrect one year may become politically correct the next depending on dozens of factors related to the perceptions of concepts.

Another example, ten years ago the politically correct term for green house emission build up and its consequences was Global Warming, today it’s Global Climate Change. There are even layers of political correctitude within certain political groups. What the US conservatives deem politically correct isn’t what the Democrats deem politically correct.

So, I’m sorry but your argument isn’t sound and is based on a lacking knowledge of the term and it’s use…which ironically is the foundation of political correctness in the first place~ that is the redefining of words to fit a certain socio-political sphere or the careful wording of a statement regardless of intent to not directly impose a form of discrimination against those the statement might otherwise suggest prejudice or offense against.

Did the little girl mean or intend to offend, no, was her statement politically driven, no. Can we even actually define what she said, even in the hypothetical, a statement that isn’t politically correct? Only as a stretch.

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