"You've been living in a dream world, Neo." -- Morpheus, The MatrixThe matrix tells you that you're not to be trusted. You're full of irrational emotions, often possessed by a low-life ego, and unable to answer Life's Big Questions on your own. That programming keeps you under control. It convinces you that you're broken, inadequate, incapable of creating your life as you want to. It tricks you into fearing and dissociating from your negative emotions,
- your internal guiding system
- your fuel for personal growth
- the crucial link to the inner knowing that can see through that system
Waking upIf you're ready to wake up, and:
- look into your shadow so that you can heal
- learn from the dark side to integrate its strengths
- deconstruct dysfunctional personal and cultural myths -- to mindfully choose your beliefs and how to lead your life
- forget all that hype about bigger and better and more happiness, and focus on self-love, the true foundation for loving relationships
Which means, nurturing your ego.
About meMy name is Melissa Karnaze. I'm a PhD student in Psychology and Social Behavior, and I received my B.S. in Cognitive Science with Specialization in Clinical Aspects of Cognition, from UC San Diego. I volunteer as the Webmaster for The Pegasus Rising Project, a nonprofit that partners horses and humans for healing by providing free Equine Assisted Experiential Health Therapy to veterans, active military, and military families affected by Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Traumatic Brain Injury.
If I were a quote...
“We deal with our pain in many different ways, but over the years I’ve discovered it’s in joy that the uniqueness of each individual is revealed. If I can help a person back to a state of joy -- well, my role has its rewards.” --Counselor Deanna Troi, “The Bonding,” Star Trek: The Next Generation
Now, in all seriousness:I believe we are all born into this world with the potential and the need to be compassionate and response able individuals. It’s just that sometimes our childhood experiences, parenting, and social programming can get in the way. And it’s hard to fight that as an adult, especially since so much of our beliefs and behaviors are subconscious, or unbeknownst to our conscious mind. Even science has a hard time pinning down what exactly the subconscious is, but at least we know it is powerful and very much a part of ourselves. It’s so hard to fight the subconscious or to try to subdue the ego (which I don’t believe we can suppress anyway)… that I don’t believe in fighting at all. After all, who would we be fighting -- ourselves? So let’s make peace with and understand the emotional self (which is intricately linked to the rational self), because it is the only starting point for learning how to be more effective in life. Let’s make peace within, and bridge rather than segregate different aspects of who we are. Are you with me? Thanks for stopping by!
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